work with me:
ways we can work together
Sexological bodywork and embodiment practice
Can you easily tune in to what your body is telling you — what you want, what you don’t want, and how you’re truly feeling?
Would you like to deepen your capacity to feel bodily sensations?
Are you interested in exploring body parts, sensations, and pleasures that may be unfamiliar or uncomfortable for you — such as around the anus, prostate, or female ejaculation?
Or perhaps you’re looking for a safe space to sit with difficult emotions that may be stored in your body, potentially blocking pathways to pleasure?
Can you tell when your body is saying ‘Yes’ versus ‘No’? And do you feel confident trusting in your body’s wisdom?
Would you like a supportive space to practise asking others for what your body truly wants, without the fear of rejection?
Are you able to distinguish between things you do because you truly desire them, and things you do to please or serve others? Would you like to explore how these different motivations feel in your body?
Self-pleasure coaching (especially for men)
“Change the way you masturbate, change your life”
(Joseph Kramer, founder of Body Electric and Orgasmic Yoga)
Most of us have been raised in a culture that shames masturbation, and we may have masturbated in more-or-less similar ways for most of our lives, perhaps alone and without even discussing our experiences with friends. Many assume that the purpose of masturbation is to achieve ejaculation or relieve sexual tension.
But what if we let go of the shame around masturbation and embrace it as an art form? What if we approached it with playfulness and creativity, experimenting with different sensations and proudly enjoying it?
Mindful masturbation focusses on intention and sensation. Its aim is not to relieve tension through ejaculation but to learn about our bodies and experience as much pleasure as possible, for as long as possible.
In our coaching sessions, we can explore mindful masturbation together: trying different orgasmic experiences, experimenting with various sex toys to notice how each one feels, and learning techniques to circulate erotic energy — and more.
Shame, guilt, and erotic fantasies
Shame and guilt inhibit our capacity for pleasure. These emotions make us feel unsafe, often causing our bodies to freeze or hide. Unconscious beliefs around what is ‘appropriate’ — and fear of judgment, whether from ourselves or others — limit what we feel is possible for us as sexual beings.
Perhaps even more challenging is that most of us are deeply ashamed of feeling shame, making it all the more difficult to explore, understand, and eventually overcome.
I offer a completely non-judgmental space rooted in radical acceptance, where you can safely voice and explore feelings of shame and guilt. Sharing and examining these emotions without fear of judgment is often the first step towards building a better relationship with them.
Since shame and guilt make us feel unsafe and block our ability to experience pleasure in real life, erotic fantasies serve to create an imaginary space that is free from shame or guilt, creating a safe place where pleasure becomes possible.
Though we may feel embarrassed by our fantasies (just like we are ashamed of our shame), exploring them can help us to understand the shame or guilt that affect our capacity for pleasure in real life. This exploration is an important part of the work we can do together.
Sexual intimacy for couples
Anything that diminishes our capacity to feel with our bodies and to experience pleasure is likely to impact intimacy in our relationships.
Some people prefer to work individually on embodiment and pleasure, bringing what they learn back to their relationships. Others may choose to work with a partner, allowing for shared exploration and growth.
Partner work, under my guidance, opens new avenues to explore what might be affecting your sexual intimacy. Together, you can practise giving and receiving pleasure, address communication problems, and discover ways to experience more pleasure — skills you can continue to develop within your relationship.
Working with your partner can also simplify the process, removing the need to translate insights from individual work into the often more complex dynamics of your shared life.
If helpful, I can also meet you in your own home, where you can recreate and explore any intimacy issues within the setting where they naturally arise (I remain fully clothed at all times).